Since my childhood days, My father used to say me. First deserve, then desire. It’s been very inspiring and motivating.
You can guess that a child has several desires and wishes, they can demand for anything they like, they just don’t bother about the time, place or cost of the selected object. Sometimes, it’s very hard for me also to convince my kids. Children desires used to be unlimited, not just children, we (adult persons) have also many such desires and wishes as like :
- I want to be Millionaire.
- I want a Big House.
- I want to travel the world.
- I want a personal Aeroplane.
- I want my own business.
- I wish to have fitness as like Salman khan.
- My ambition is to be Doctor.
- I want a promotion and hefty increment in my job.
……..and so on.
Just wishing or having desire of something is not enough. We must think, are we worth for…?
Now a days , the world is very much materialistic, Life is very competitive. If we do not posses a big house, a 4-wheeler, a good bank balance (not in swiss bank..ha..ha.), a five figure salary. We are not recognized as successful in society.
Our kids & family members , used to demand one thing or another. Their demands are guided by TV, Magazines and neighbors also. Sometimes, they demand because there’s friend have the same thing, their wish list increases with entries to maintain their lifestyle and reputation. Their wish list seems to be the icon of their ego and attitude. After all मानव की इच्छाएँ अनंत होती हैं, मनुष्य इच्छाओं और परिस्थिती का दास होता है.
I try to inspire them with the same quote by my father “First Deserve Then Desire”.
My father used to convince me repeatedly, first..prepare yourself, labor hard and be eligible for the award and win it. If you try to hard and run towards your destination with honest effort, destiny will add wings to your destination to fly towards you. Do not fed up with the circumstances you face, you would learn to make a balance with your destiny and circumstances.
I have followed my father saying. It had made me rough and tough to win under difficult situations. All my successes so far are devoted to My Father. If you adopt the quote, you will learn with time and then you would also experience that now your wish list have some meaningful wishes, un-appropriate dreams/wishes will be deducted from the list. You will be happier and successful than your earlier period.
I would like to suggest everybody who is in pursuit of a Goal, we should move ahead with a plan and strategy , you may pick some of the mentioned points:
- Categorize your wishes
- Define priorities
- Research on the subject.
- Study some good books on the subject.
- Learn lessons from the pioneers of the related field.
- Gather your tools.
- Develop ..Never Say Die Spirit.
- Devise and stick to a PLAN (there is a saying.. If you fail to Plan, you Plan to fail).
- Believe in yourself.
- Step ahead with confidence and do not stop till Goal is achieved.
These are proven techniques, not just words.
May God strengthen your wings to fly high till you kiss the sky of your Ambition.!! Good luck.